Transracial Abduction

This website was actually linked in the previous article from The Root that I wrote about yesterday. It is rather disturbing. There isn't much on the site, but it is essentially a group of transracially adopted- "abducted"- people who feel that they have been exploited by the adoption system. They discuss feeling out of place in the United States. They felt racism and bigotry against them. They felt used by their adoptive families. They felt that their adoptions were used inappropriately in political ways. The very site that this site exists is indicative of the fact that adoption is not an easy subject. Adoption is inherently deeply tied to feelings, identity and self-image. It is a messy subject. While I am sure that these peoples' feelings are legitimate I believe that, more often than not, adoptive parents do have good intentions in adopting, and that these peoples' parents did too. It saddens me that people can be hurt so much by what were likely good intentions. However, since people are coming out of American adoptions feeling this way, we should as a nation and as people address these issues. I do not know how to address them completely, but a discussion of these feelings would be a start. 

I feel it is safe to say that these cases are not totally unique. Other adoptees may also feel that they have, in fact, been abducted. In the aftermath of the Earthquake in Haiti, as people seek to adopt internationally and transracially, this discussion is timely and necessary. Having more "abductees" as opposed to "adoptees" will not help anyone.  

Haiti, America, Race, and Racism

This article, from The Root, entitled, Haiti's Orphans' and the Transracial Adoption Dilemma, provides an interesting discussion of race and adoption in the United States. It uses the Hatian adoption craze following the earthquake as a platform to discuss the larger issue. It is a heated topic in the US and many people find it uncomfortable to discuss. Racial issues are deeply rooted in American history, through the times of slavery, to the Native American "civilizing" movement, to Jim Crow and the legacy of transracial adoption is mired by these events.


While recognizing these conflicts, the author succinctly  and pointedly states one of the central ironies surrounding the issue: "Whites are chastised for their reluctance to adopt black children, but then those who do adopt black children are criticized for not being able to prepare black adoptees to face discrimination—or embrace their identities." This irony may largely account for the fact that black children are the "least desirable children" by white American adoptive parents. 


Despite this statement, the article, at one point, implies that black children from Haiti may be "more desirable" to white American parents because there is a certain "degree of separation" between these children and the tenuous racial history of the US; they are still black, but may not seem so in the conscience of prospective parents. If this is the case, there is a paradigm shift in what race "is." Race is defined not by physical appearance, but by culture and place of birth. This is a groundbreaking assertion. However, the article does not discuss this point at length. 

Instead, the article ends with note of the fact that Haitian children adopted into the US, regardless of the family that adopts them, will be labeled as African Americans by their society. As a result, they will have to endure the stereotypes that are placed on this group in this society. This is an interesting comment. It is often lost in the mix of thoughts along the lines of, "surely children adopted from Haiti to the US will have a better life in the US than in Haiti." This may well be the case, especially along material lines. However they will likely have to endure more racism in their everyday lives as well.  


The US and its citizens need to recognize and mend that.   

Prospective Parents

Look at these pictures. A single woman and a dog. A middle aged -to -older couple. A gay couple. A young couple at the beach. An interracial couple. 


Q: What do all of these people pictured have in common? 


A: They are all real people hoping to adopt children.



Throughout this blog I have really been focusing on Haitian adoption in response to the earthquake. I have approached the topic with a lens focusing on my understanding that interest in Haitian adoption increased due to the Earthquake. However, given this view, I have been neglecting the fact that many families who adopt do not adopt out of response to a devastating disaster, but due to long term circumstances in their own lives: they cannot have a baby "of their own," they have a long-standing belief in adoption, they are single and so on.

What really brought this realization home for me was this website. This is a page of prospective parent profiles and is definitely an interesting read. Each prospective parent (or more often, parent pair) provides a picture and a short introduction seemingly to the birth family. I find the introduction paragraphs rather odd. In fact, I am not sure calling them introduction paragraphs is even appropriate. Most begin with a "Hi" and address the reader as "you" and refer to "your child-"- almost like a letter. However, these paragraphs are by no means letters. They are more like personal advertisements or cover letters for a job ("pick me! I am financially stable, full of love, and committed"). In all, I found it rather awkward.

However, my personal feelings aside, I think that the realization that for many adoptive parents adoption is not a "I'm gonna be a hero and save a recent orphan from a natural disaster" type of decision is essential to my view of Haitian adoption. In a number of my posts, I have been trying to bring home my belief that development- not adoption of Haitian orphans- is the answer to solving problems in Haiti. Now I realize that I still believe that wholeheartedly, but in many ways, this belief is actually not directly related to the issue of adoption. Regardless of the state of development or aftermath of a natural disaster in Haiti, there will still be adoptive parents such as the ones on this page waiting and hoping for a baby.

Good Intentions...

"Imagine that you're at work when whatever natural disaster is most probable in your state strikes. For me it would be an earthquake, for you it might be a flood, volcanic eruption, or hurricane. The natural disaster has toppled telephone poles and cell phone towers, damaged roads, and collapsed bridges. You try desperately to contact family members but no phones are working.

What was a simple 45 minute commute this morning has become an almost impossible journey. The freeway is impassible and roads are covered in debris. It takes you almost a week to reach home. When you finally arrive you receive word that your sister and her husband were seriously injured and did not survive. As you absorb this loss you worry about your three year old niece and five year old nephew. 

After several frantic days you make it to your sister's destroyed house only to find out from her neighbors that your niece and nephew have been taken by foreigners to be cared for in an orphanage. You are thankful to hear that they survived and are determined to find and care for them. Unfortunately, the neighbors don't know which organization took the children. All they know is that they spoke only a little English and wore matching green shirts with words in either Spanish or Portuguese written on them.

You are frantically searching for the orphanage when word reaches you that foreigners have begun flying plane loads of children out of orphanages to be adopted in other countries. You start to panic for fear that by the time you find this orphanage it'll be too late. If your niece and nephew have been taken to another country you may never be able to find them and bring them back. It's now a race against time.

*****

Don't do this to someone else's child. Children in orphanages often have parents or extended family trying desperately to care for them."

This is an essay taken from a blog entitled "Good Intentions Are Not Always Enough: An honest conversation about the impact of aid." The essay clearly echoes many of the cries from aid organizations regarding the questionable status of children in Haitian orphanages and the resultant decision to postpone adoptions.

While describing an obviously complicated situation and taking a clear stance on the issue, the essay also brings to light a few, less obvious but equally important, questions related to adoption and family-making. First, it assumes that familial (blood) rights trump adoptive rights while ultimately taking this stance as a human rights issue, playing on the pathos of the image of one searching for a lost- "abducted"- family member.   

Taking this assumption into consideration leads one to ask:  "who has the 'right' to care for children who have lost their parents in a disaster?" Do aunts and uncles have the right to claim guardianship over the nieces and nephews in situations such as this? The article clearly indicates that they do. But, if this is so, why? Solely due to a blood relationship? What if they had little emotional relationship with the children prior to the disaster? What if the adoptive family would indisputably have the capability to provide the children with a "better life"- a better education, more opportunities, stability? What if the blood relative claiming rights to the children is more distant relative: a great-uncle or great-aunt? A second cousin? Where do the familial blood rights end? 

These are not easy questions and they in fact lead toward an even more complicated and nuanced question: "what is family?" Can family be defined on clear legal terms? Family is a concept that is highly varied and personalistic. So, should the legal definition of family even matter? 

If one can come to clear terms with these questions (which I have not), more questions arise. How does adoption fit into the picture? Are the ties created by adoption as strong as those created by blood? Or a more nuanced question, does the age of the child at the time of the adoption make a difference? For instance, had the children from this story been orphaned as babies and adopted quickly would the aunt/uncle still have rights to the child? How long do familial relationships in adoption take to form? 

None of these are simple questions, but they are questions that are relevant to our current time. As people look to alleviate the situation in Haiti- with only the "best intentions" at heart- people are going to ask these very questions. To answer these questions in the way that is most sensitive to the rights of children, families and adopters, I suggest that we look toward past experiences for some ideas as we simultaneously listen attentively to contemporary voices involved in the issue (children, families, and adopters) to keep ourselves in check.